Even show-offs like myself, people who love the spotlight, share a curated mask to the world. It's frightening to share the authentic side of ourselves, because that's where we are most vulnerable - but ironically, that's the side that makes a strong connection with people.
There are so many shallow stories, and shallow versions of people, that it's only when someone shares something deep that it becomes meaningful. I think that depth is what's scary - it's easy to share what's on the surface, but what's right inside my core? That's intimate.
Loved this Robert! I remember the first time I posted on Linkedin. I was quite excited and went to tag all my recent connections swiftly followed by panic! What would they think? Would my peers like it? And my work colleagues...OMG what if I got reported...
Nothing happened of course. I don't think anyone noticed! As for work colleagues...I quickly learned that what I had to say and the way I said it would not be a good 'professional' look. Another lesson learned about not being able to please everybody al the time.
I love so much about this article Robert, especially your self-honesty and the energy of your authenticity. It always feels better when I'm sick and a real doctor tells me the name of what I have, because then I can focus on what it actually is and address it. That's how I felt here when you named my APPA condition, and your cure being the reminder that, "You’re better off targeting your kind of people rather than trying to be all things to everyone." I hope you keep writing on this theme and sending out this kind of inspiration to write forth with courage. We need each other's stories!
Appreciate this feedback Rick. APPA is real. I felt it this morning after I emailed this to my subscribers and realised I'd made a typo in the headline!
I think we have a fear of being really seen.
Even show-offs like myself, people who love the spotlight, share a curated mask to the world. It's frightening to share the authentic side of ourselves, because that's where we are most vulnerable - but ironically, that's the side that makes a strong connection with people.
There are so many shallow stories, and shallow versions of people, that it's only when someone shares something deep that it becomes meaningful. I think that depth is what's scary - it's easy to share what's on the surface, but what's right inside my core? That's intimate.
Loved this Robert! I remember the first time I posted on Linkedin. I was quite excited and went to tag all my recent connections swiftly followed by panic! What would they think? Would my peers like it? And my work colleagues...OMG what if I got reported...
Nothing happened of course. I don't think anyone noticed! As for work colleagues...I quickly learned that what I had to say and the way I said it would not be a good 'professional' look. Another lesson learned about not being able to please everybody al the time.
I love so much about this article Robert, especially your self-honesty and the energy of your authenticity. It always feels better when I'm sick and a real doctor tells me the name of what I have, because then I can focus on what it actually is and address it. That's how I felt here when you named my APPA condition, and your cure being the reminder that, "You’re better off targeting your kind of people rather than trying to be all things to everyone." I hope you keep writing on this theme and sending out this kind of inspiration to write forth with courage. We need each other's stories!
Appreciate this feedback Rick. APPA is real. I felt it this morning after I emailed this to my subscribers and realised I'd made a typo in the headline!
By the way, I also LOVED the Darwin's Delay story. So ironic, or perhaps not, that the theory of evolution would evolve so slowly.
I noticed it but it almost seemed to fit with the piece.